Today I was out with with a buddy, one of my two closest friends. There was something he mentioned that doesn't seem right to me. We were discussing our mutual friend, and I remarked how I've never ever seen him lose his temper or cry. My friend said he had seen him cry on a few occasions, some after they'd had huge arguments. And these instances were relatively recent, not the run of the mill childhood scrapes.
Now, granted they've been buddies since the fourth grade, while I've only known that mutual friend for the past 10 years or so, but it troubles me that despite our closeness, and we are close, I've never had a single substantial argument with him or seen him cry once. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen any buddy of mine cry as a grown up, and vice versa.
Is this normal? We share our secrets, our hopes and ambitions. We share stuff with each other that even our parents don't know of. We have literally the same quirky interests and tastes in any sphere of life. We're not classically confrontational, and I guess that and our shared interests explain to an extent why we've never had an argument. We just get along. But does the fact that we've never been exposed to each other in a truly vulnerable state mean we've never really opened up to each other? As of this moment I'm starting to believe this means I've never really had a truly deep enough friendship.
Can any of you relate to this?