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    Bully or Bullied?

    As a parent of 2 very young boys, Im obviously concerned (maybe overly) about their future.

    One (of many) questions I ask is; is it better to be a bully or to be bullied?

    Obviously the 3rd way is the best way but of the choices which is preferable.

    I despise bullies with a passion. I think it is the most cowardly and destructive thing and impossible to justify. Yet getting bullied can be very bad and ruin lives.

    So, imagine you have kids. Which is preferable, being a bully and making other peoples life miserable or bullying others?

    Im interested in honest answers, so no silly third option.
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    Having no idea about children, I'd imagine a Bully can reform more easily than someone who has the mental scars of being bullied..

    Why, one of the kids come back with some extra lunch money?
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    In school I was a bit of middle ground, wasn't "cool" by any stretch but seemed to skip most of the bullying my friends got mainly by not playing into it. Bullying IMO is what you make of it, embrace it and it goes away.

    Though some of it really is too hard to escape.
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    It depends. I think everyone is "bullied" at some stage in their schooling life. And that probably everyone invariably plays the role of bully at some stage too, without realising it at times.


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    I tended to be on the fringes of the bullying myself, although I never made an integral part out of school life and preferred to hang with people out of school.. Got picked on, wouldnt say bullied, at my first school because I was too posh, and then because I was too working class.. Even having a girlfriend who went to a government school was a big no-no
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    I fell into the "bullied" group a lot at school, probably because I'm a white **** and not Maori (I do grow up in the **** areas of South Auckland), and some because they were wankers plain and simple, and ITBT I'm probably doing a lot better then what they are, so IMO I have had the last laugh.
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    How kids react to bullying all depends on what their environment is like away from the bullying. I used to get bullied a lot, and I had a very conflicted family life, but being at boarding school meant I dealt with things myself out of necessity.

    It taught me to be a stronger and more independent person, and it taught me a hell of a lot about the way the world works. I wouldn't be who I am today without it, and I'm thankful for it because it didn't shelter me from some things that some people never experience.

    If the child is given sufficient support and care away from the bullying, then it can only be a positive experience in later life. I draw strength from everything I've been through, and every time something bad happens in my life, I know I can deal with it. The majority of bullies I've known have gone on to become unmotivated losers who think the world owes them something - I'd like to see them deal with that once they realise what they've become.

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    I think bullying within limits is very good as a character development tool, it teaches the kid independence and survival skills, basically how to survive in the real world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by vic_orthdox View Post
    It depends. I think everyone is "bullied" at some stage in their schooling life. And that probably everyone invariably plays the role of bully at some stage too, without realising it at times.
    Yeah, I'd certainly agree with that.

    As for the question, I'd rather be a bully, because at least that way I can make it stop.
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    I read once that more than 50% of kids who get bullied go on to bully someone else...
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    Wouldnt have called myself a 'bully'... but I was definitely a bitch at times. There wasnt much of it at my school iirc.. quite a small school, about 50 or so in year 12, so most of us were friends. There was the odd person who sat by themselves at lunch time and so on... but they were generally ignored rather than picked on.
    And now those few get ignored on facebook, so I guess it really never ends haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Linda View Post
    And now those few get ignored on facebook, so I guess it really never ends haha.
    Haha I'm sure they're devastated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GeraintIsMyHero View Post
    I read once that more than 50% of kids who get bullied go on to bully someone else...
    Probably in the "How to cope with bullying" pamphlet

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    Quote Originally Posted by Linda View Post
    And now those few get ignored on facebook, so I guess it really never ends haha.
    No need to twist the knife!

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    I was a bigshot bully [so I thought] until around year 10 and then I calmed myself down and never picked on anyone, just went to a guy I used to bully's wedding late last year.
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