Long Distance Relationships

[Langeveldt]

Anyone involved in one like me? How do you deal with it? How far apart are you? How regularly do you make contact?

Me and my girlfriend have to put up with 8,500 miles of distance these days, see each other about every two months, and it sucks, but I think its worth it..

[Perm]

Just think, when you do get to see her it will feel even better.

[Langeveldt]

True, but I've got three years of on off on off.. Hope the absence doesnt make things go stale..

Think we are pretty set on moving to SA or New Zealand afterwards, so that would be ace

[C_C]

Originally Posted by Langeveldt

Anyone involved in one like me? How do you deal with it? How far apart are you? How regularly do you make contact?

Me and my girlfriend have to put up with 8,500 miles of distance these days, see each other about every two months, and it sucks, but I think its worth it..

Not worth it.
And it will eventually die unless your 'long distance relationship' is gonna last a short while (ie, few months) and then you'r back to physical contact.
Simply because as time go, people start to grow apart when they are, well, apart!

I was in one 7 years ago and it didn't work out- we were 1500 miles apart and i used to call her/she used to call me every other day.

[Dark Hunter]

Originally Posted by Langeveldt

Anyone involved in one like me? How do you deal with it? How far apart are you? How regularly do you make contact?

Me and my girlfriend have to put up with 8,500 miles of distance these days, see each other about every two months, and it sucks, but I think its worth it..

Ouch man.

My girlfriend lives in sydney, so its about 800km apart, which, compared to 8,500 miles, seems kind of small. I think we handle it all right, because we've always lived apart, so we don't have the experience of extended time together.

Good luck to you though, i hope you both get through it.

[Stumped]

man...i havent had one but i can imagine that they r really hard to maintain

[Smudge]

Heading up to Wellington at the end of this month to catch up with a girl I met in my town (she's from here) just before Christmas - if it goes well, I might look for work there. Otherwise, I'd say we won't bother.

[NZTailender]

Clocking up 3 years on a fairly long distance relationship. Though we've been able to spend more time with each other in the last few years (up to months at a up) compared to a week every month when we were first together.


It's all about communication. Too much communication and it all falls apart

[Langeveldt]

Originally Posted by C_C

Not worth it.
And it will eventually die unless your 'long distance relationship' is gonna last a short while (ie, few months) and then you'r back to physical contact.
Simply because as time go, people start to grow apart when they are, well, apart!.

Interesting, we see each other every two months for a few weeks.. And I don't believe your last statement, we became closer when I was in SA last time, no doubt about that.. I think absence can make the heart grow fonder, perhaps Im just being too optimistic.. We've been nearly two years, so I don't see how it can suddenly become "not worth trying"

[Langeveldt]

Originally Posted by NZTailender

Clocking up 3 years on a fairly long distance relationship. Though we've been able to spend more time with each other in the last few years (up to months at a up) compared to a week every month when we were first together.


It's all about communication. Too much communication and it all falls apart

Why do you say that? (I'm not disagreeing, just wondering what you mean by that).. The way I look at it, you can never have enough communication because that provides reassurance, and for me at least, quite a bit of happiness..

[vic_orthdox]

I think he's just taking the proverbial to an extent.

[Smudge]

Originally Posted by Langeveldt

The way I look at it, you can never have enough communication because that provides reassurance, and for me at least, quite a bit of happiness..

Sounds like someone's been watching a bit too much

[Dravid]

Never had a long distance relationship. Never plan on getting one

[NZTailender]

Originally Posted by Langeveldt

Why do you say that? (I'm not disagreeing, just wondering what you mean by that).. The way I look at it, you can never have enough communication because that provides reassurance, and for me at least, quite a bit of happiness..

I was para-phrasing Homer Simpson, in the episode where Apu tries to make up to Manjula him working forever.

Homer says something like "The problem is communication. Too much communication." while sipping a beer in the lounge and Marge in the kitchen.


Mind you, it's something to think about. A friend of mine is in a long distance relationship and he has fights about when he's online to talk to her. Like, she gets frustrated when he's not online to talk or if he'll only be on for 30 mins a day (since he's really busy with work) and that sort of thing.

Long distance relationships rely on lots of communications. Whereas a regular relationship, you're around each other a fair bit but you're not talking to each other for 6 hours a night, like most people in a long distance relationship try and do by using teh internets.

[James]

Comes down to one simple thing IMO. How much do you both really want it?