Trouble is I work at her former high school. And like the job. I get to run my own class, call the shots, etc. etc.
So, I couldn't totally disassociate myself from her anyway. So I might as well try to be friends with her/or be on good terms. It'll make me feel better about working at the school.
I can't be bothered moving, either. Where too?
That's the biggest bitch about the whole thing: I was engaged, I had made it. That was the goal. It was all in front of me.
Now I don't know where I'm heading.
You can move anywhere, once you get over feeling hopeless about what's just happened. You should do it in your own time, but try to do stuff with friends so you don't wallow forever. There's no point in clinging on to little bits of her by still teaching at her school. Japan has ****loads of school you can teach at. So does Korea...Vietnam...China...Thailand....Poland...The Czech Republic etc etc.
I also don't see how being engaged was 'making it'...what were your plans before this happened? Was it solely to get engaged and then have nothing to aim for after that? No offence, but that sounds like a very Japanese (and Korean) outlook on life. I'm bewildered by the amount of people here who believe you get married first and ask questions later.
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Must be just me who has no problems being friends with exes.
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I'm going to be honest, here.
I don't think you've 'made it' when you're engaged to a girl younger than 23. There was always the chance of her seeking out different life experiences.
I'm 22 now and getting engaged is out of the question. To me, it's sort of chaining myself down, so she probably felt that way.
Have no fear though. Time heals and as soon as the next good thing in your life arrives(it doesn't have to be in the relationship sense, it could be a pay-raise or whatever) you'll wonder "WTF was I whinging about? My life's perfect!"
My advice is to start searching again. Go on dates and don't ever compare the new chicks to the ex. Simply have fun. I'd even advise getting drunk, pashing randoms etc. as one guy above suggested, it's all part of the healing process and all perfectly normal.
Why has Xavier become obsessed over one girl you mean?
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