All quiet on the western front and tomorrow was supposed to be the "next date", according to her.
After the initial message the day after the New Year's bash, I finally messaged her again six days ago asking her if she still wanted to meet and where and when and a friendly, "give me a mail sometime."
So far, no reply. Facebook says she has seen the message and what really confuses me is she has liked a couple of my posts since then and even replied to a comment I made on one of her posts two weeks ago.
So, I figure I have three options:
a) send a pissed-off email asking why the **** she couldn't have sent a simple reply
b) a friendly nudge or head's up email
c) do nothing
of course the only action I can logically take as a man and not a whiny bitch is c) because the ball is in her court. I'm tempted to do a) though because I'm sick of all this bull**** and games, if that is what it is. If she defriended me or never had any interaction with me on facebook, I could handle it, but it's this liking of my facebook posts but not replying to a message about a date we planned together that gives me the ****s.
EDIT: should add that her relationship status reads as "complicated". Which could mean that she is just not sure if meeting me is a good idea and is trying to avoid the subject altogether.
Last edited by Days of Grace; 31-01-2013 at 11:23 PM.
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I'd probably ask her again. It sort of depends on the dynamic. It's easier if you're usually sort of playful with each other.
I don't know the girl obviously, but I'd happily suggest she's not worth it.
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Yeah, **** her off on that front. She'll be liking posts as it's 'What friends do, right?', but as to going out on a date, its either A) she just wants to be friends, or B) she's got her eye on someone else, and she's keeping you as backup if that goes wrong.
Walk before you find out its B), its not pretty....
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I'd just take the no reply as a "no but I cbf thinking up an excuse" and leave it at that.
It's for that reason that I think it's best avoid actually making a move or initiating a serious discussion via Facebook/text/whatever because the cop out no reply option is just too easy. If you can't ask someone in person, get her number and call her.
99/100 a phone call is best.
Occassionally if you are a really long shot to get her to say yes then an email can work better because she can give it a lot of thought rather than going with her gut instinct in the moment.
For instance I nearly got a girl who was seeing someone else to go to lunch with me by emailing her - then I got impatient when she didn't respond after 5 days and I impetuously withdrew my invitation (like you were considering doing DOG) and she responded by saying she was just about to say yes but now she wouldn't.
I hasten to add - I didn't know she was dating someone else I found this out later.
What I'm trying to work out is why are these the only options:
Like why email? Isn't it possible to see her in person, call or then text?a) send a pissed-off email asking why the **** she couldn't have sent a simple reply
b) a friendly nudge or head's up email
c) do nothing
I think the best thing to do is invite her to join you in doing something that you enjoy doing*, that way you'll be in a comfortable setting and have fun and you can make it as serious or not serious as you or she wants it.
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Get her drunk on saki and cop a feel.
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