Girl Trouble

**jan** · 23-01-2013, 02:22 AM

Originally Posted by SJS

Girl Trouble is no trouble really when one is young . . . but it is REAL trouble when one is older

The older my wife is the more troublesome she gets

**Days of Grace** · 31-01-2013, 10:16 PM

Originally Posted by Days of Grace

Bumping this for the New Year.

Was at a new year party and met this girl. We kinda hit it off, and I ended up taking her for a walk and copping a couple of hand holds and genuine affection. I was a little drunk and not on my best form so was actually surprised she was that interested in me. I just told her straight out I liked her.

Anyway, we decided that we should meet early next month.

I sent her a facebook message yesterday thanking her for the night and hoping we can meet soon.

Is that all I can really do at this stage? A bit worried she woke up yesterday thinking that it was a big mistake (she wasn't drinking however). So far no reply from her 24 hours after I sent the message.

All quiet on the western front and tomorrow was supposed to be the "next date", according to her.

After the initial message the day after the New Year's bash, I finally messaged her again six days ago asking her if she still wanted to meet and where and when and a friendly, "give me a mail sometime."

So far, no reply. Facebook says she has seen the message and what really confuses me is she has liked a couple of my posts since then and even replied to a comment I made on one of her posts two weeks ago.

So, I figure I have three options:
a) send a pissed-off email asking why the **** she couldn't have sent a simple reply
b) a friendly nudge or head's up email
c) do nothing

of course the only action I can logically take as a man and not a whiny bitch is c) because the ball is in her court. I'm tempted to do a) though because I'm sick of all this bull**** and games, if that is what it is. If she defriended me or never had any interaction with me on facebook, I could handle it, but it's this liking of my facebook posts but not replying to a message about a date we planned together that gives me the ****s.

EDIT: should add that her relationship status reads as "complicated". Which could mean that she is just not sure if meeting me is a good idea and is trying to avoid the subject altogether.

**wellAlbidarned** · 31-01-2013, 11:37 PM

Don't seem needy or clingy. You've made your move pretty clearly already time to drop it.

**fredfertang** · 01-02-2013, 12:06 AM

Move on mate, you've done your best

**Uppercut** · 01-02-2013, 01:17 PM

I'd probably ask her again. It sort of depends on the dynamic. It's easier if you're usually sort of playful with each other.

**Son Of Coco** · 01-02-2013, 03:22 PM

Originally Posted by Days of Grace

All quiet on the western front and tomorrow was supposed to be the "next date", according to her.

After the initial message the day after the New Year's bash, I finally messaged her again six days ago asking her if she still wanted to meet and where and when and a friendly, "give me a mail sometime."

So far, no reply. Facebook says she has seen the message and what really confuses me is she has liked a couple of my posts since then and even replied to a comment I made on one of her posts two weeks ago.

So, I figure I have three options:
a) send a pissed-off email asking why the **** she couldn't have sent a simple reply
b) a friendly nudge or head's up email
c) do nothing

of course the only action I can logically take as a man and not a whiny bitch is c) because the ball is in her court. I'm tempted to do a) though because I'm sick of all this bull**** and games, if that is what it is. If she defriended me or never had any interaction with me on facebook, I could handle it, but it's this liking of my facebook posts but not replying to a message about a date we planned together that gives me the ****s.

EDIT: should add that her relationship status reads as "complicated". Which could mean that she is just not sure if meeting me is a good idea and is trying to avoid the subject altogether.

Is she Japanese mate? I'd take option C as it sounds like she's just ****ing you around. Go and do something more purposeful like find someone who isn't going to make you wait on her every move.

I don't know the girl obviously, but I'd happily suggest she's not worth it.

**cpr** · 01-02-2013, 07:25 PM

Yeah, **** her off on that front. She'll be liking posts as it's 'What friends do, right?', but as to going out on a date, its either A) she just wants to be friends, or B) she's got her eye on someone else, and she's keeping you as backup if that goes wrong.

Walk before you find out its B), its not pretty....

**Hurricane** · 01-02-2013, 07:32 PM

I'm waiting for Ikki to weigh in before I form an opinion.

**Prince EWS** · 01-02-2013, 07:43 PM

I'd just take the no reply as a "no but I cbf thinking up an excuse" and leave it at that.

It's for that reason that I think it's best avoid actually making a move or initiating a serious discussion via Facebook/text/whatever because the cop out no reply option is just too easy. If you can't ask someone in person, get her number and call her.

**Hurricane** · 02-02-2013, 04:26 AM

99/100 a phone call is best.

Occassionally if you are a really long shot to get her to say yes then an email can work better because she can give it a lot of thought rather than going with her gut instinct in the moment.

For instance I nearly got a girl who was seeing someone else to go to lunch with me by emailing her - then I got impatient when she didn't respond after 5 days and I impetuously withdrew my invitation (like you were considering doing DOG) and she responded by saying she was just about to say yes but now she wouldn't.

I hasten to add - I didn't know she was dating someone else I found this out later.

**NUFAN** · 02-02-2013, 04:37 AM

What I'm trying to work out is why are these the only options:

a) send a pissed-off email asking why the **** she couldn't have sent a simple reply
b) a friendly nudge or head's up email
c) do nothing

Like why email? Isn't it possible to see her in person, call or then text?

I think the best thing to do is invite her to join you in doing something that you enjoy doing*, that way you'll be in a comfortable setting and have fun and you can make it as serious or not serious as you or she wants it.

*Excluding rating greatest Test XI's

**Ikki** · 02-02-2013, 06:41 AM

Originally Posted by Hurricane

I'm waiting for Ikki to weigh in before I form an opinion.

Originally Posted by Hurricane

99/100 a phone call is best.

Occassionally if you are a really long shot to get her to say yes then an email can work better because she can give it a lot of thought rather than going with her gut instinct in the moment.

For instance I nearly got a girl who was seeing someone else to go to lunch with me by emailing her - then I got impatient when she didn't respond after 5 days and I impetuously withdrew my invitation (like you were considering doing DOG) and she responded by saying she was just about to say yes but now she wouldn't.

I hasten to add - I didn't know she was dating someone else I found this out later.

Nah, I reckon you're the new guru now.

**benchmark00** · 02-02-2013, 10:01 AM

Get her drunk on saki and cop a feel.

**uvelocity** · 02-02-2013, 03:40 PM