Girl Trouble

[Ikki]

Originally Posted by Langeveldt

Right you were

SO, did she have a BF? A girl in a ****y relationship is usually a surer deal than a girl who is single and comfortable with it..

Yep, had a BF...moved on, ****ed some other girl I met in class instead haha.

Originally Posted by wellAlbidarned

****ty relationship or not, you're in slightly slippery moral ground there imo. Not to mention you might just end up being the person she bitches to before miraculously sorting things out with her BF.

Yeah, I'd never go there on moral grounds. I've done it before - being with a girl who had a BF (they were gonna ditch at the time). The BF talked to me and started crying on my shoulder. I felt so ****... never again.

[Ikki]

Originally Posted by duffer

So I recently moved to Singapore with the missus, and we both got jobs but now she's complaining that she wants to move back asap. This was a big decision and I got a great job here. Should I just let her go and find a local chick, or try and convince her to wait it out? Don't want to have wasted years of my life with this broad but if she doesn't have the fortitude to handle a move abroad and ride the initial settling in period what can I do?

Same bir who couldn't quit smoking ( but finally did) and told me to stop wearing skinny jeans.

Was thinking you should dump her way back with the smoking thing...100% now...haha. Honestly, I'm so disenchanted with the idea of marriage or something like that because of a lot of things that have happened with people I know that I wouldn't even think of settling unless I was really damn sure it'd work out.

[GingerFurball]

Originally Posted by Ikki

Yeah, I'd never go there on moral grounds. I've done it before - being with a girl who had a BF (they were gonna ditch at the time). The BF talked to me and started crying on my shoulder. I felt so ****... never again.

Man up.

[GingerFurball]

Originally Posted by duffer

So I recently moved to Singapore with the missus, and we both got jobs but now she's complaining that she wants to move back asap. This was a big decision and I got a great job here. Should I just let her go and find a local chick, or try and convince her to wait it out? Don't want to have wasted years of my life with this broad but if she doesn't have the fortitude to handle a move abroad and ride the initial settling in period what can I do?

Same bir who couldn't quit smoking ( but finally did) and told me to stop wearing skinny jeans.

**** her off.

[Dan]

Today I learned not to take GF's advice on relationships.

I do have a question though - how does one gauge whether or not someone's interested in them?

[Athlai]

During sexual intercourse if they look you in the eye when prompted that is usually a good sign.

Hope this helps xox

[Dan]

WAC etc.

[Top_Cat]

GingerFurball, paragon of sensitivity.

(don't make you wrong, but)

Originally Posted by Athlai

During sexual intercourse if they look you in the eye when prompted that is usually a good sign.

What about if you prompt them in the eye?

[Son Of Coco]

Originally Posted by duffer

So I recently moved to Singapore with the missus, and we both got jobs but now she's complaining that she wants to move back asap. This was a big decision and I got a great job here. Should I just let her go and find a local chick, or try and convince her to wait it out? Don't want to have wasted years of my life with this broad but if she doesn't have the fortitude to handle a move abroad and ride the initial settling in period what can I do?

Same bir who couldn't quit smoking ( but finally did) and told me to stop wearing skinny jeans.

Well, she had 1 out of 3

To be honest mate, I reckon you're wasting years of your life following her around (or at least you would be if you follow her back to Australia. If you like it in Singapore and have a good job then stay). Maybe you need to put the pressure back on her by saying she can go but you're staying.

It sounds to me like she's a bit of a control freak.

[duffer]

I'm not following anyone back to Australia, the plan is to stay here for two years or so, I've got an apartment near Holland Grove; a nice area and can cover the rent easily by myself. Might take the advice in the thread, tell her she's free to go back (even though she has no place to stay in Aus) but I'm staying. I've made a few friends here at work so it's not like I'll be lonely.

Don't want to end the relationship 6 months after a big move but what the hey, I'm as scared of marriage as Ikki is.

[Turbinator]

Honestly, just tell her straight up, "I love you baby doll, and as much as I'd love a regular supply of ass each night, I won't stop you from leaving because your happiness is what matters to me. Our relationship is based on trust, respect, and support. And I support your decision, whatever it may be. But I just want you to know, no matter where you are in the world, a part of you will always be right here *point to heart and stare into her eyes* with me."

Honesty and communication is often the best policy in these situations, people make things too complicated by beating around the bush.

[Hurricane]

Not sure I would want to date a girl who allowed herself to be called baby doll.

[Turbinator]

Depends on the way you say it. Have to be smooooooooth with it.

[Hurricane]

haha

[duffer]

Originally Posted by Ikki

Honestly, I'm so disenchanted with the idea of marriage or something like that because of a lot of things that have happened with people I know that I wouldn't even think of settling unless I was really damn sure it'd work out.

Read this thread. Lots of people saying no-one expects to cheat or get divorced but guess what happens.