skipped work and things...

PommieMacGill · 02-09-2005, 03:58 AM

Hello all,

Well, right now I should be at work with my head down but I am not. I called in this morning and said I was sick. There is nothing particularly wrong with me, I just fancied a day off. Am I a bad person for this?

I'm torn over this, I mean I think that many people take work too seriously and won't take a day off for love nor money. Whereas I personally feel that work, whilst important, isn't the most important thing in life. If you want to call in sick, call in sick. You aren't going to burn in hell for it!

However, there was an alterior motive to me calling in sick for work today. It makes me look like a bit of a wimp. Basically, the team that I work with are going out tonight to have a get-to-know-each-other sort of thing. This involves going out to pubs and clubs, now I didn't want to go out with them because whilst I get on with them all okay at work I do not want to go out and socialise with them. I know, it is my problem but as I was saying I don't want to go out with them, calling in sick has meant that I don't have to explain to them why I didn't want to go - at least it has delayed me telling them until Monday. By then I will have come up with an excuse which I am sure they will see through, but it has given me a bit of time.

I took the easy way out by calling in sick and I do feel guilty but I know if I would have gone in and said that I wasn't going on this night out they would have steamrollered me into changing my mind. Now I do feel guilty because there is a few people in the group that I would like to get to know a little better but the majority of people in the group I don't care for.

I don't want these people to think that I dislike them or anything though, it's me who has the problem. I have a distinct lack of self-confidence which causes me to act extremely introvertly and because of this I don't impose my real personality on new people that I meet. I know that I would have acted the same way out of work as I do when I'm in work - which is quiet and reserved. A night out wouldn't have changed this.

But anyway, when you have a day off from work and whether it's due to you feeling sick or just fancying a day off like me, do you feel guilty or do you just not bother?

What are your feelings on work, do you take it that seriously or are you laid back about it like me?

Lee

Swervy · 02-09-2005, 04:02 AM

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Originally Posted by PommieMacGill

Hello all,

Well, right now I should be at work with my head down but I am not. I called in this morning and said I was sick. There is nothing particularly wrong with me, I just fancied a day off. Am I a bad person for this?

I'm torn over this, I mean I think that many people take work too seriously and won't take a day off for love nor money. Whereas I personally feel that work, whilst important, isn't the most important thing in life. If you want to call in sick, call in sick. You aren't going to burn in hell for it!

However, there was an alterior motive to me calling in sick for work today. It makes me look like a bit of a wimp. Basically, the team that I work with are going out tonight to have a get-to-know-each-other sort of thing. This involves going out to pubs and clubs, now I didn't want to go out with them because whilst I get on with them all okay at work I do not want to go out and socialise with them. I know, it is my problem but as I was saying I don't want to go out with them, calling in sick has meant that I don't have to explain to them why I didn't want to go - at least it has delayed me telling them until Monday. By then I will have come up with an excuse which I am sure they will see through, but it has given me a bit of time.

I took the easy way out by calling in sick and I do feel guilty but I know if I would have gone in and said that I wasn't going on this night out they would have steamrollered me into changing my mind. Now I do feel guilty because there is a few people in the group that I would like to get to know a little better but the majority of people in the group I don't care for.

I don't want these people to think that I dislike them or anything though, it's me who has the problem. I have a distinct lack of self-confidence which causes me to act extremely introvertly and because of this I don't impose my real personality on new people that I meet. I know that I would have acted the same way out of work as I do when I'm in work - which is quiet and reserved. A night out wouldn't have changed this.

But anyway, when you have a day off from work and whether it's due to you feeling sick or just fancying a day off like me, do you feel guilty or do you just not bother?

What are your feelings on work, do you take it that seriously or are you laid back about it like me?

Lee

well one things for sure , if i was going to ring in on a Friaday anytime around now, it would have been next Friday when the test is on!!!!

PommieMacGill · 02-09-2005, 04:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Swervy

well one things for sure , if i was going to ring in on a Friaday anytime around now, it would have been next Friday when the test is on!!!!

Meh, I don't mind missing the cricket to be honest. I still get to see an hour or two's play after I finish work.

Burpey · 02-09-2005, 04:10 AM

Never skipped school in my life ... I would feel so guilty for doing so

andyc · 02-09-2005, 04:11 AM

Hmm yeah well there's nothing wrong with pulling a sicko. I used do it a lot with school, and I never felt guilty so don't worry about that. As for the going out thing, as far as i can see, you can either keep avoiding it, front up to them or just go out with them one night. I too can be a bit nervous and stuff at first, but surely if you go out with them, you can get to know some of them a bit better, which will make you feel at ease around them and you wouldn't be so shy and introverted around them. Also, you could just go out with them, and if you're not having fun after a while, then you could just 'not feel well' or something and go home.

andyc · 02-09-2005, 04:13 AM

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Originally Posted by burkey_1988

Never skipped school in my life ... I would feel so guilty for doing so

Yeah, I've never skipped school, but I did extend a sickness (you're always sick on the weekends, aren't you) a few times when I was smaller.

Has anyone else seen those ads on buses for the buses themselves that give you advice on calling in sick? Quite good I reckon

Burpey · 02-09-2005, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by andyc

Yeah, I've never skipped school, but I did extend a sickness (you're always sick on the weekends, aren't you) a few times when I was smaller.

Has anyone else seen those ads on buses for the buses themselves that give you advice on calling in sick? Quite good I reckon

I find them lame ... and you sometimes have to read them if you have nothing better to do on the bus

PommieMacGill · 02-09-2005, 04:23 AM

Cheers Andy, good advice that.

I am hoping that after they go out tonight that will be the end of it. I am sure others in the group were uncomfortable with the idea of going out. I just see it as an excuse for some of them (my boss included) to get blottoed. I don't see how it will improve morale or make us work better as a team.

It might just be me, but I do get along with them fine at work, but thats mainly because you have to co-exist with people that you work with day in, day out. Even though I get along with them at work I do not want to spend a night out with them. I've better things to be doing, it's not anything personal towards them, I just don't want to go on a night out with them. I don't see how I can tell them that without them taking offence to it.

Nnanden · 02-09-2005, 04:30 AM

...it`s a grown-up Nibbs!

James90 · 02-09-2005, 04:48 AM

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Originally Posted by burkey_1988

Never skipped school in my life ... I would feel so guilty for doing so

You haven't lived if you've never skipped school

Dasa · 02-09-2005, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by PommieMacGill

But anyway, when you have a day off from work and whether it's due to you feeling sick or just fancying a day off like me, do you feel guilty or do you just not bother?

What are your feelings on work, do you take it that seriously or are you laid back about it like me?

Lee

The latter. I just don't bother - nothing to bother about. I can see why you wouldn't want to go out with work people as well...forced socialisation is hardly ever good.

David · 02-09-2005, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by James90

You haven't lived if you've never skipped school

I'm dead, then

andyc · 02-09-2005, 05:13 AM

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Originally Posted by David

I'm dead, then

What a(n honest) guy

David · 02-09-2005, 05:16 AM

As to skipping work... Never done it, have been tempted though. But I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt personally.. I'm strange like that.

Serious about work.

luckyeddie · 02-09-2005, 06:34 AM

Over the last 34 years (my working life) I have skipped work without an excuse once - and that was in my first job as a trainee manager. I was expected to work 1 Saturday in 3 as part of my contract of employment - and 3 weeks on the trot I had my shift changed, coincidentally to the one where I just so happened to have to come in on the Saturday (no extra money - 'salaried' position).

The third time it happened, I refused. On the Monday, I was fired (I had 'failed the test').

Take a bow, FW Woolworth and Co, Britain's scummiest employer. You did me a favour. The next day, I got a proper job as opposed to being a jumped-up shelf-stacker.

02-09-2005, 03:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
PommieMacGill State Regular Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Leicestershire, England Posts: 908	skipped work and things... Hello all, Well, right now I should be at work with my head down but I am not. I called in this morning and said I was sick. There is nothing particularly wrong with me, I just fancied a day off. Am I a bad person for this? I'm torn over this, I mean I think that many people take work too seriously and won't take a day off for love nor money. Whereas I personally feel that work, whilst important, isn't the most important thing in life. If you want to call in sick, call in sick. You aren't going to burn in hell for it! However, there was an alterior motive to me calling in sick for work today. It makes me look like a bit of a wimp. Basically, the team that I work with are going out tonight to have a get-to-know-each-other sort of thing. This involves going out to pubs and clubs, now I didn't want to go out with them because whilst I get on with them all okay at work I do not want to go out and socialise with them. I know, it is my problem but as I was saying I don't want to go out with them, calling in sick has meant that I don't have to explain to them why I didn't want to go - at least it has delayed me telling them until Monday. By then I will have come up with an excuse which I am sure they will see through, but it has given me a bit of time. I took the easy way out by calling in sick and I do feel guilty but I know if I would have gone in and said that I wasn't going on this night out they would have steamrollered me into changing my mind. Now I do feel guilty because there is a few people in the group that I would like to get to know a little better but the majority of people in the group I don't care for. I don't want these people to think that I dislike them or anything though, it's me who has the problem. I have a distinct lack of self-confidence which causes me to act extremely introvertly and because of this I don't impose my real personality on new people that I meet. I know that I would have acted the same way out of work as I do when I'm in work - which is quiet and reserved. A night out wouldn't have changed this. But anyway, when you have a day off from work and whether it's due to you feeling sick or just fancying a day off like me, do you feel guilty or do you just not bother? What are your feelings on work, do you take it that seriously or are you laid back about it like me? Lee __________________ PommieMacGill. “Everyday life is only an illusion behind which lies the reality of dreams." - Werner Herzog Friedrich Nietzsche \| Werner Herzog \| Joy Division \| Ludovico Einaudi \| History \| Peep Show

02-09-2005, 04:30 AM	#9 (permalink)
Nnanden You'll Never Walk Alone Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: New South Wales Posts: 26,188	...it`s a grown-up Nibbs! __________________ Jesus saves proudly supporting Liverpool FC

02-09-2005, 06:34 AM	#15 (permalink)
luckyeddie Hall of Fame Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Derby, England Posts: 17,631	Over the last 34 years (my working life) I have skipped work without an excuse once - and that was in my first job as a trainee manager. I was expected to work 1 Saturday in 3 as part of my contract of employment - and 3 weeks on the trot I had my shift changed, coincidentally to the one where I just so happened to have to come in on the Saturday (no extra money - 'salaried' position). The third time it happened, I refused. On the Monday, I was fired (I had 'failed the test'). Take a bow, FW Woolworth and Co, Britain's scummiest employer. You did me a favour. The next day, I got a proper job as opposed to being a jumped-up shelf-stacker. __________________ Nigel Clough's Black and White Army, beating Forest away with 10 men

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02-09-2005, 04:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
Burpey Cricketer Of The Year Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Sydney Posts: 7,584	Never skipped school in my life ... I would feel so guilty for doing so

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PommieMacGill State Regular Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Leicestershire, England Posts: 908	Cheers Andy, good advice that. I am hoping that after they go out tonight that will be the end of it. I am sure others in the group were uncomfortable with the idea of going out. I just see it as an excuse for some of them (my boss included) to get blottoed. I don't see how it will improve morale or make us work better as a team. It might just be me, but I do get along with them fine at work, but thats mainly because you have to co-exist with people that you work with day in, day out. Even though I get along with them at work I do not want to spend a night out with them. I've better things to be doing, it's not anything personal towards them, I just don't want to go on a night out with them. I don't see how I can tell them that without them taking offence to it.

02-09-2005, 05:16 AM	#14 (permalink)
David International 12th Man Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Perth, Western Australia Posts: 3,661	As to skipping work... Never done it, have been tempted though. But I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt personally.. I'm strange like that. Serious about work.

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