This is inspired by the thead where I posted my thoughts on relationships and other stuff.
It got me thinking about the nature of attraction and such related themes and I was wondering when people know they really like someone. So many times, I've met quite beautiful women and been able to appreciate their physical beauty but when I talk to them, find there's little there and despite the protestations of my libido, I've been forced to accept that it's time to go talk to someone else!
Anyway here's two ways I can tell when I like someone just off the top of my head;
I see the inner-child
To really get to know a lot about where someone has been, where they are where they're going, it really is tough without knowing information about their childhood. I have a friend of mine I've known for 21 of my 26 years and I know a lot about the person he is by virtue of the fact that I've known him so long so I've watched him develop feelings, emotions, ambitions, etc. Every time I see him, I still see the 5 year old I met when I was 6.
Well, with someone I really like, I find that when I see them in a similar light. I see them as a child but in a metaphorical sense; I see where they've been, their bare insecurities and their strengths and weaknesses because as a child, you aren't as good at hiding this stuff as adults are. So in essence, I see right through any of their outbursts, insecurities, etc. and can really know, without them telling me, exactly what they're really saying. There's no misunderstanding or lack of communication because I know exactly what they mean. When this happens, it's very easy to tell the difference between a child-like rant and genuine gripe with you too as well as being able to tell the difference between when they're being really affectionate towards you or want something. They're easier to trust.
Questions never end
With someone I really like, I'm dying to know more about them and after a finishing asking a question about them, their past, etc., that question prompts five more and those five prompt two more each, etc. Don't even need to try, it's as easy as breathing. With someone I'm not clicking with, I struggle to think of things to ask them and eventually run out. So I have to fall back on the small-talk which people expect you to talk about with someone new. As soon as that happens, I realise I'm wasting my time and hers.
So how do people here know when they really like someone? What are the signs and how do you deal with them once you pick up on them?