Was browsing a news website and came across this which filled me with an enormous sadness;
The visceral reaction is to ask "My God, her husband is dead. Why would she spend her money on such frivolous things as shoes?!?" But then the real issues become apparent. She's depressed. I mean clinically and still grieving. She lost her soul mate and her rather erratic behaviour is symptomatic of someone who is constantly trying to fill a void left by the loss of a loved one. I mean think about it; that sort of spending is compulsive, not necessarily totally conscious. I bet she's on anti-depressants too.
Sure there'll be people who will hate her for what she's done; why not give the money to charity? Why not spend it on something worthwhile? Etc., etc.......... But she's obviously in a great deal of pain. Even if a resolution was passed to make her pay back the money to the compensation fund, I doubt she'd be too affected by it. I mean, what can anyone else do to her that hasn't already been done? She's pining for someone who will never return, her heartache will never end. She's going to have to find some way to prevent the 'bad stuff' from getting in. I guess her mind figured it was the short-lived euphoria of buying stuff which her and her hubby might have talked about which would fill the void. But then you read quotes like this;
"I feel if I look pretty, I'm going to find someone like Danny," she said. "I want him to come home."
Her suffering will never end. And now she's has the added guilt of having spent all of her money and judgements by others on what she's spent it on. A person like this doesn't need derision, she needs understanding. In this current climate, which one is she more likely to get?
On the flipside, the pain she's feeling is mirrored by those victims of US aggression worldwide over the last 30 years. Unfortunately there's no multi-million dollar compensation fund for the people of Iraq, Afghanistan, Somalia, Vietnam, etc. None of those people get air-time; they're just red specks on a strategic map or huge numbers which make us all stop and think................for about 10 seconds. Their suffering is as real and as pertinent as anyone else's. But they don't get news articles about them, the same degree of sympathy or $5 million. But I digress.........
This just goes to show, no-one wins a war (not even a 'war' on terror). Everyone loses. A war isn't a measure of who's right; it's a measure of who's left. And those left behind have terrible scars to bear apart from any physical ones. This lady will never find peace and that's just sad.