Really wound me up tonight.
Basically her and my dad dont get along much. She seems to blame him for every single bad incident or slight thing she didnt get her own way when growing up. Now in fairness, he was a useless **** of a dad, not because he didnt care, but because he's a thick fool so stuck in his own ways and inable to change (trust me, the guys lack of a clue when it comes to the world is astounding). Now he did try, but my sister was such a cow growing up that its no doubt he backed off and left her to it (we all did, she was a grade A nightmare)
Anyway, she's 28 now, parents have been seperated for 3 years or so, but she wont give the guy the time of day. Basically its revenge for percieved injustice of the past, which in my eyes makes her twice as bad as he is (he never really set out to upset anyone, if he did he kinda bumbled into it, she's doing it deliberately). Thats all fine with me, thats between them to try and sort out like adults, what grinds me is that she wont say anything about it to him. She'll ignore him untill she needs something, such as money, then be all friendly. Dad really cant do much about it, as shes far more intelligent than him and uses the emotional blackmail of seeing his grandkids to bait him back in every time.
The problem is when she's ignoring him. Now first of all we are all the family he's got. He was an only child, and both his parents are long gone. He only really speaks to one of his cousins occasionally, because the rest are quite odd to say the least, so he's got me, my sister and the grandchildren. Now because she may have been nice not long before to get something, he doesnt understand why she'll go months without acknowledging his existance, and it really upsets him that he's missing out on his grandsons lives (they live 100 miles away and she blows him out whenever he tries to visit). With me seeing him on a regular basis thanks to working at the pub and actually trying to do something about giving him a sense of family life (the split from my mum really hit him hard), I end up getting all the questions about why she wont speak to him, and the emotional crap about it tearing him up. Falls on deaf ears when i mention it to my sister, he's a taboo subject untill she needs something. Basically tried telling my dad he's better off just forgetting about her, because she's nothing but grief to him, but its the grandchildren aspect that upsets him. He's only seen them twice in the last year (they are 4 and 10 months old respectively). For the last two years i've been nothing but an emotional dumping ground due to her sheer disregard for anyone elses feelings, including mine. She knows what position i'm in between the two, but does sweet FA about it.
The final straw came tonight. Its the younger ones Christening next Sunday, and i'm Godfather. Got a phonecall tonight off my Dad. Apparently he wasnt invited and found out by chance off one of my mums brothers (he still gets on well with them all). He thought i was deliberately keeping the christening from him, but i wasnt aware my sister would scoop so low to keep it a secret from him, so the old man wants to know why he's been blanked again and is playing the emotion card
Basically blowing my top at my sister tomorrow. I dont care if she doesnt want to speak to my dad again, i dont care if she tells him he's not welcome at the Christening, so long as she ****ing has the guts to tell him, rather than keep him dangling for when she needs him. I refuse to be the one who has to listen to it anymore, trying to keep both sides sweet for my own peace.
Telling her if she doesnt phone him and explain
her stance to him(even if it is to tell him she wants nothing to do with him: - Thats their argument) then i'm not attending the Christening and she can find someone else to stand in for me. It'll absolutely kill my mum, and probably my brother in law, but its about time somebody stood up to her and let her know what a ****ing cow she's being. I'm not going to fall out with her, she's still my sister, but this has to stop for my sake and sanity.
Because its such a long post, i'm going to put a picture of a Hobo i found by typing Smitteh into Google, hoping that it entices people in thinking its all one big amusing acedote about the picture. Was going to put a picture of a kitten in, but apparently God kills one every time you masterbate, and i didnt want to excite you lot too much for that poor kittens sake. I'm guessing what i'm saying is if you wanna jack off to a picture of a sleeping hobo, its more acceptable